What About My Husband?

A couple weeks back, I shared about going to recharge my batteries, and giving myself permission to do so.  I followed it up with some low- to no-cost ways to take a mini-retreat.

Since then, I have spent a great deal of time ruminating on someone else who deserves a break, or some time off.

As a stay at home mom, my life is wrapped up in children, dogs, chores, and volunteer opportunities.  I get very little down time, and when I do have down time, I usually fail to recognize it as such until the time has expired.  As much as I advocate that moms in general should be able to take a break and recharge their batteries, there is another person in my family I feel I overlook.

My husband is a great husband, fantastic father, and wonderful caregiver for our family.  We live in one of the worst cities in the nation for traffic congestion, and his daily commute to work in one direction is 1.5 hours.  He then works an untold number of hours, to commute back the same amount of time.  When he walks in the door, both the children and dogs try to steal the attention.  I usually hand one human puppy to him, and set off to work on a chore.  Before I know it, the time has come to pack up the house, turn out the lights, and head to bed.

I am not the best at appreciating my husband’s contribution to our family life – it is so easy to get bogged down with parceling out who does more around the house, or with the children.  I have a tendency to forget how much he sacrifices in order for me to be able to stay home with our children.

As I think of all my husband does to provide for our family, I realize my husband’s batteries also need to be recharged.  I’m not a husband, father, or breadwinner for my family, so I really don’t know what would help him recharge his batteries.

He has hobbies, but he is running the rat race that so many people are running in this part of the country.  There are not enough hours in the day or week for him to take time to partake in his hobbies right now.

I am at a loss at how to help him recharge his batteries, and engage in a little self-care.

What are some creative ways that you recharge your batteries?

6 thoughts on “What About My Husband?

  1. to keep your husband’s batteries recharged:

    1. keep him well-fed.
    2. be available for as much sex as he wants.
    3. graciously submit to him and respect him.
    4. create a habit of never (or extremely rarely) saying ‘no’ to him.
    5. continuously cultivate a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4).
    6. do everything you can to create an atmosphere of peace and acceptance when he is at home.
    7. manage your home well so he is not burdened with your work as well as his.

    men’s batteries recharge differently. they need unlimited sex and they need to be well fed. they need to be respected and revered. they long to come home to a gentle and quiet spirit and a well-managed home filled with peace.

  2. With my husband it’s cooking something and going for a walk. Just spending time with his family. Our re-charge is getting away when you’re a SAHM, theirs is connecting?

    1. That is a good point – they recharge by connecting! I think the biggest thing for me to remember is to just not hand the kiddos over and take off – I need to allow him to connect with me, too!

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