My Approach to Motherhood (Day 27)

I have been binge-watching several televisions shows in the past couple months, courtesy of Netflix.  Earlier this week, I touched briefly on a theme that keeps coming back to me, through Hollywood, and other outlets, and that is the theme of selfishness, and how life isn’t all about me.

The word for today:


Lately, I have seen numerous news articles highlighting mothers being strung out on drugs, collapsed in cars or on the street, or seen reference to mothers being arraigned for horrible cases of abuse or neglect.

In addition to the shows and movies I have seen, news articles I have read, and conference-discussions related to motherhood, the entire concept of motherhood and its effect on society has been on my mind lately.  More importantly, the concept of dying to self has been at the forefront of my thoughts on motherhood.

St. John Paul II once stated,

Those who know me personally know I am a huge proponent of self care as a mother.  In order to care for others, I strongly believe we must first care for ourselves.

Yet, when a woman becomes a mother, there is an element of selflessness that must become central to the relationship between mother and child.

Recognizing my life is no longer, “All about me,” and there is another life form solely dependent on me and my actions is a sobering thought.

Furthermore, the older my children get, the more they observe and model my behaviors and actions.  This has led me to realize I need to take my responsibility of motherhood seriously – although, to be honest, I’ve always taken this vocation seriously.

When I became a mother, I didn’t lose my identity, and I didn’t lose myself.  But, I will admit – I changed.

My outlook on life changed.  And, my perspective on life changed.

My life stopped being about me.

Our married life stopped being entirely about our wants and desires as a couple. 

I started to truly understand the concept of God – is Love, and my life is foremost about Him.

Proverbs 22:6 is typically applied to faith-based approach to parenting.  However, I find it applicable to every aspect of parenting.

Children are sponges, and are watching us adults to figure out the best way to navigate the murky, rocky waters of life.

In order to ensure I am doing right by my children, I strongly believe I must put aside selfish desires and whims, and focus on their well-being.

While it is okay to go out and have a good time, I must acknowledge my actions and decisions impact my children.  Any decision I make in regard to my lifestyle and way I raise my children should ultimately enhance my vocation – as a wife and a mother.

It’s a tough job, but it is so critical – to put others’ needs before one’s self.  And, I pray other mothers recognize this element of selfless service.

Because future generations depend on the job we do as mothers today!

**I’ll be linking up with Revolution of Love for this week’s Link-Up for the Writing Challenge I have been participating in during this month of October.  Check out Bobbi’s posts, and any other fabulous and committed writer this week.  Thank you all for your support this month!**

7 thoughts on “My Approach to Motherhood (Day 27)

  1. Ugh. I hate it when my kids do something negative that I *know* they’ve seen modeled in me. Then I have to keep working on making myself better for their sake.

    That line between selfless and self-care is tough to see most days.

    Thanks for sharing!

    1. You are so correct – there is a fine balance to strike!

      And, my kiddos are my mirrors more often than not – check out the topic “Mirrors” from one of the early days of this 31 Day Challenge. My son has picked up a couple choice words from me in his lifetime… šŸ˜³šŸ˜¬

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