Have you ever had one of those realizations that you are in big trouble? Like, big trouble?
I was once asked to describe my son in one word. I gave the description of “strong-willed.” When most people say “strong-willed,” they mean it negatively, but I am not most people.
I, am so proud of my children’s strong-willed tendencies. They don’t take “no” for a simple answer, and instead, challenge the policies and rules set in place. And, I don’t think there is anything wrong with that approach to life – I’d like to think I wouldn’t be the wife and mother I am without a healthy dose of questioning growing up.
Unfortunately, there are plenty of adults who will disagree with me – their teachers will, for starters.
I thought my son was strong-willed, and I am being blown away by the budding strong-will of my daughter. I think, as in many areas of life, she is surpassing her brother’s skills at an earlier age.
I have always advocated treating children as mini-adults. That does not mean that they don’t have consequence and boundaries! Instead, it means if I am willing to put a boundary in place, I should be prepared to explain my reasoning and rational behind my motives. And, that goes back to the non-negotiable rules I have for my children, which I referenced last month. Explaining my thinking, however, is a little difficult, when the culprit “in trouble” is less than a year old!
When I think about their future, I get excited – for them!
I, however, dread the parent-teacher conferences. Both my husband and I were those strong-willed students who weren’t afraid of calling a teacher out! My husband learned to respectfully correct a teacher when the teacher’s answer didn’t pan out; I never quite learned to respectfully call out a teacher, preferring other passive-aggressive techniques to show my teachers’ incompetence.
So, I know what is in store for us.
And, I am excited in an odd way, to see how they view their world, and how they shape their own world!
Because someday, this little girl is going to to grow up…
She is going to learn just how much of her world she can control…
And, she is going to take her world by storm.
I’m excited to see how it all unfolds.
I dread how much work the formative years will take, because strong-willed children are a lot of work in the early years, but to see them becoming their own people is such a rewarding prospect!
And, I realized last night, just how much trouble I am in for, as I watch the unfolding of little citizens of the world beginning!
My short-term trouble is worth the long-term reward!