I once guest posted an article over on The Koala Mom, attempting to explain how I have struggled, and then come to terms, with the concept of my husband as the “spiritual head of the home.” I still struggle with this concept at times, but am starting to recognize the times when I don’t want to heed his role in my spiritual life as being times in which the feelings stem from the sin of pride.
I am a prideful, flawed being – we are all flawed beings. Perhaps nowhere is that made crystal clear than within the vocation of matrimony. On the day we enter into our sacramental union, we are not only making a contract with each other – a promise to love each other, “For richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” We are also entering into a covenant with God – inviting Him into our marriage and sacramental union. We are promising God we will turn to Him, and embrace all that He has in store for us. And, as I wrote about last week, during this journey of matrimony, we are striving for sainthood, even though it won’t be easy.
Sometimes, when parenting and work result in sleep-deprivation, it can be easy for irrational feelings to creep into our minds. Those irrational feelings can cloud our judgment, sully our thoughts, and imprint upon our actions. They create an atmosphere which feeds on animosity, mistrust, anger, and pride.
It is in precisely those moments we, as married couples, must turn to the covenant we established with God. We must seek His help. We must ask His guidance. We are compelled, by virtue of our vows, to trust in His greater plan, and seek His will.
And, it won’t be easy.
Pride likes to sneak into our hearts in small moments – with a glance askew here, a misspoken word there, a feeling of exhaustion all around.
Christians acknowledge there is an unseen battle waging all around us, a battle between good and evil … a battle for our souls. A reputable exorcist for the Catholic Church has spoken about a demon targeting families, and the first step toward building a family is to have a married couple.
When couples break down, the family unit withers and dies.
Living within a vocation, we must remain vigilant. As couples, we must strive to remember the end goal of our state of living – to become saints in heaven.
When our marriages struggle, when we start to get worn down, and when we start to doubt our vocation, I would encourage all of us to remember the following prayer:
Lord, help us to remember the time we first met,
and the strong love that grew between us.
Help us to apply that love in practical things so nothing divides us.
We humbly ask for kind words filled with love,
and for hearts always ready to ask forgiveness, as well as to forgive.
Lord, we leave our marriage in Your hands.
-Lamb and Lion Marketing