A long time ago, I mentioned in a post how every week seems to naturally develop its own theme for my blog. This week’s theme is the week of affirmations.
All too often, parents are so busy building their own children’s self-esteem, they overlook their own self-esteem. At the end of the day, it’s common for parents to fall into bed, exhausted, and simply overlook the great work they’ve put into being a person – an individual with thoughts, feelings, emotions.
And, many times, in our society, we lose sight of ourselves. As part of a couple, and then a parent, it can be so easy to lose yourself – to lose your identity. But, it is important to always remember we have our own strengths which God has given us, and there is a reason He has given us our strengths.
Because it is so easy to overlook ourselves, I immediately warmed to the idea presented by Leslie at Life In Every Limb, and decided to identify what I like about me… not as a wife or mother, but as an individual, and a woman.
- I like my values. In grad school, we were challenged to identify a leadership philosophy. In doing research, I stumbled upon the Army Values and quickly realized that ethos had permeated into the fabric of my identity as an Army BRAT. The acronym is easy – LDRSHIP stands for Leadership, Duty, Respect, Self-less Service, Honor, Integrity, and Personal Courage.
- I like my dedication – to almost anything from friendship, commitments, faith, family. When I have committed to something, I give 100% to that endeavor.
- I like my ability to effectively communicate. While I have, at times, inadvertently opened my mouth and inserted my foot when speaking to people, my use of written skills is pretty awesome. I am able to effectively convey my messages, specifically through written communication.
- I like my ability to stay calm under pressure. When I get stressed, I go to basics and essentially flip on autopilot. At times, being able to detach from my emotions, and focus on the crisis or pressure point serves to an advantage. This allows me to focus more on immediate needs, rather than losing my cool.
- I like how I take very little personally. It may do me a disservice to others, since I usually have difficulty sensing when someone else’s feelings are hurt; however, it is exceedingly rare my feelings get hurt. I try to roll with the punches, and am able to see critiques objectively, rather than automatically becoming defensive.
- I love hard. It also means when I hurt, I hurt hard. But, when I love someone or something, I jump feet first.
- I like my baking skills – and, my emerging cooking skills. Walking that fine line between healthy and unhealthy, I enjoy my time in the kitchen – and, what it produces!
There you have it – my top seven favorites attributes… about the woman I have become through the years. I am defined by so many things – my husband, my children, my former career, and my faith. But, while those exterior things help define me, I am also defined by my interior person.
I encourage every person, especially parents, to take a moment to identify something they like about themselves – outside of being a parent or spouse.
In the words of Moana, “Sometimes our strengths lie beneath the service … sometimes far beneath.” It’s up to each of us to dig out our strengths.
I’d love to hear from you – what do you like about you?