The Ultimate Example of Motherhood

Last week, I wrote about Mary’s Assumption, and how she provides the motivation and encouragement we as Christians, professing belief in the resurrection of the body and life after death. As I contemplated and struggled to write this month’s CWBN blog topic, I wondered if, perhaps, I had written one too many posts about Mary, and had burnt myself out on writing about the topic of the mother of God.

Then, I considered writing about the concept of ideal womanhood, and how we as Christian women can find inspiration from Mary’s meekness toward God, but her strength and courage in facing the world of her times. Yet, the words wouldn’t come.


However, the words which failed to come this entire last week began swirling in my mind this morning. I realized why I was struggling with this particular topic of “Mary, my Mother.”

As Christ hung on the cross. He looked to John, and in John 19:26-77, stated,

When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he loved standing beside her, he said to his mother, “Woman, here is your son.” Then he said to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” And from that hour the disciple took her into his own home.

At that moment, salvation history is given a mother – a safeguard, a model, an example of fidelity, love, willingness to follow God, and the epitome of compassion.

Mary stepped in and succeeded, where a lesser woman would have failed – in fact, a lesser woman did fail. Mary is routinely referred to as the “new Eve,” having ensured the possibility of our salvation through her willingness to carry forth the New Covenant – Jesus.

When I look at Mary, as my mother, I see tenderness, love, compassion. I see a strong woman, who is willing to chide me when I commit wrongdoings, but whose love is ultimately unconditional.

Mary, as a woman, was devoid of pride and vanity. She was (and remains) a model of humility and grace.

And, she has taught me a lot about suffering. She has taught me a lot about how, as a mother, my job isn’t to like everything my child does, and it isn’t to allow them to get away with every little thing.

However, my job as a mother is to love unconditionally, and support my children in their endeavors – not physically, but emotionally and spiritually. My job is to pray for them, even if I am struggling to like their attitudes or their actions. My job is to be the mother they need.

She taught me motherhood isn’t about me.

Instead, it is about the little ones in my life – no matter how big they get.

Mary scolded God, Himself (Jesus) when He stayed behind in the temple in Jerusalem for three days! She (gently) pushed Him into His public ministry at the wedding feast of Cana, before even He felt ready. She pulled no punches.

More importantly, she stood by her Son while He walked His final steps on this earth, and sacrificed Himself for the salvation of us all. 

The pain she must have felt is incomprehensible.

As a mother, centuries later, I marvel at the woman who bore the Savior into this world. I remain in awe of the pain she endured, trusting in God every. step. of. the. way. I am amazed at how the example of her life impacts mine today.

She isn’t a demure wallflower by any stretch of the imagination. She doesn’t command attention, either.

She is the mother of God, who was assumed into Heaven, and now reigns as Queen of Heaven and Earth – by virtue of her role of supporting her Son throughout His entire life, and ultimately at His feet as He gave His life for us.

She is the spouse of the Holy Spirit.

She is the mother of Jesus Christ.

She is a devout follower of God the Father.

Hail, Holy Queen,

Mother of Mercy,

Our life, our sweetness, and our hope.

To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve.

To thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears.

Turn then, most gracious advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us,

And after this, our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb,


O clement, O loving, O sweet virgin Mary!

Pray for us, O holy mother of God,

That we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ.

For more thoughts on Mary, click over to Reconciled to You’s CWBN Blog Hop to read some other fantastic posts by bloggers! Mary has a huge impact on our lives today – and, it’s nice to see her touch in our daily lives acknowledged in one way or another!

13 thoughts on “The Ultimate Example of Motherhood

  1. This is a very beautiful reflection on Mary.

    I too struggle at times, when I am writing poetry, on the topic of Mary.

    It seems my attempts to reflect her lamp are usually awkward and fall short of what I hope for them.

    About five days ago, I believe, is the first time I really had a break with that topic.

    I decided to try the Dolorians prayer.
    It starts with a brief prayer to mary’s sorrow, then a hail mary for each of her seven sorrows.
    At the end I was able to write a poem about her, the first I consider “well written”.

    I appreciate this post a lot. The topic of Mary is sometimes difficult to address, and it is nice to have different takes on her devotion.

    1. Thank you so much!!

      I love that you were able to write about her after the Dolorians prayer! She does speak to us, if we are willing to spend time conversing with her and meditating (not in the spiritual sense of the word) on her life, her own sacrifices, and her continued contribution.

      I feel as though there was is so much to say about her, but yet, it is such a delicate subject matter!

  2. I love this, Anni. Beautiful perspective that I hadn’t thought much of. I tend to get so bogged down in my own sadness and frustration. This was a much needed boost.

    1. Thank you so much!! I am happy they were words someone else needed to hear, because I think I wrote it just as much for me, too! 🤗🤗 We’re in “this” journey of Catholic womanhood together.

  3. “She taught me motherhood isn’t about me.”

    Oh. Yes.

    I need to think about that some more. Thank you for sharing this reflection!

    1. I’m so happy that resonated with you. Because that was the line that stuck out to me the entire time I was writing this piece – it’s kind of like the piece was built around that sentence!

  4. Agreed. I think we get another glimpse of her character at the wedding in Cana. She said ‘do whatever he says:’ and they did. So did Jesus. I’m sure there’s profound meaning there. I also see a fascinating glimpse of the Holy Family’s dynamic.

    Another angle, from the part of our Lord’s experience on the cross that you mentioned. I think “…the disciple whom he loved…” eloquently shows our Lord’s humanity. Jesus is one of the Persons in the Trinity, of course.

    But our Lord is also quite human. With, apparently, distinctly different sorts or personal relationships with the 12 men closest to him at the end. That’s understandable, I think, since they were 12 very different people.

    1. Yes! There are several times in the Bible where I find Jesus’ “fully human” nature come out – most apparently to me, when he overturned the tables in the temple.

      Fully human, yet fully divine. And, such a beautiful onion to unlayer.

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